I got back two weeks ago from the most wonderful trip to India. It was so amazing, it almost feels unreal.. :P I wanted to start the new year on my blog with a detailed post on the trip, but I'm sure I'm going to burst into tears when I start thinking about it. So maybe I'll talk about it when I'm a little more stable.
So this post is going to be about two random thoughts that have been hovering around my mind for the past few days-
The first thought is about love- I just realized a few days ago, how important a role love plays in life. I mean, there are so many segments to our lives- our careers, our social life, our personal hobbies and interests, our material possessions, our family, ambitions, spirituality. Somehow in all of this, love seems to dominate it all- and by love, I mean, the idea of having someone to come home to, or having someone to call your own. Of course, I understand that this is just a feeling- you can feel that comfort and security even with a close family member or friend or a pet. But not having that feeling is one of the worst feelings in the world, regardless of how abundant all other aspects of your life may be! I know that because for three months, I came home to an empty house with no furniture and a bowl of fish that belonged to my roommate, who was never there! When I could take it no more, I decided to go through the terrible process of moving all my stuff, just so that I was living in a house with people! :P I don't think this hype about love is a bad thing though- I know people talk of self-sufficiency and being independent and what not, and I know that that are important qualities to develop. But at times, it is okay to just let your guard down and allow yourself to be a little bit vulnerable. True, right?
Another thought that came across my mind this morning is about acceptance. Think about it- what is the most common advice people give you when things are not going your way? To just accept the reality and move on. Somehow, no one ever tells you to fight the circumstances and claim what is rightfully yours. I know that acceptance is supposed to be the path of least resistance and subsequently, faster happiness. But maybe that is not the case all the time. Maybe sometimes you need to stop accepting and start forming your own reality; believe that you too can deserve something that you saw only others get. It is a risky proposition for sure, but then again- in order to get success, you have to have the strength to face potential failure!
So this post is going to be about two random thoughts that have been hovering around my mind for the past few days-
The first thought is about love- I just realized a few days ago, how important a role love plays in life. I mean, there are so many segments to our lives- our careers, our social life, our personal hobbies and interests, our material possessions, our family, ambitions, spirituality. Somehow in all of this, love seems to dominate it all- and by love, I mean, the idea of having someone to come home to, or having someone to call your own. Of course, I understand that this is just a feeling- you can feel that comfort and security even with a close family member or friend or a pet. But not having that feeling is one of the worst feelings in the world, regardless of how abundant all other aspects of your life may be! I know that because for three months, I came home to an empty house with no furniture and a bowl of fish that belonged to my roommate, who was never there! When I could take it no more, I decided to go through the terrible process of moving all my stuff, just so that I was living in a house with people! :P I don't think this hype about love is a bad thing though- I know people talk of self-sufficiency and being independent and what not, and I know that that are important qualities to develop. But at times, it is okay to just let your guard down and allow yourself to be a little bit vulnerable. True, right?
Another thought that came across my mind this morning is about acceptance. Think about it- what is the most common advice people give you when things are not going your way? To just accept the reality and move on. Somehow, no one ever tells you to fight the circumstances and claim what is rightfully yours. I know that acceptance is supposed to be the path of least resistance and subsequently, faster happiness. But maybe that is not the case all the time. Maybe sometimes you need to stop accepting and start forming your own reality; believe that you too can deserve something that you saw only others get. It is a risky proposition for sure, but then again- in order to get success, you have to have the strength to face potential failure!
4 comments:
That thing about love you said, so true! We all are human and if we sit denying the stuff (like love) that comes naturally to us, we would be fooling ourselves.
And the thing about acceptance, I think if someone else has wronged you (in whatever way) then acceptance is the best way to cope it. And if situations and yourself have let you down then may be trying/fighting for a change is worth all the money.
From my own personal experience I have seen that, for me (a person who most of the times has a 'wall' around me), letting down my guard, surrendering myself and being vulnerable was the best-est feeling ever! and I knew at that moment, that even if I get hurt in the process, it would be all worth it. That is love, I guess!
With acceptance, irrespective of what people say, if you feel its time to move on, and if something is not worth fighting for, then acceptance is the best. But if you feel that the things you are fighting for mean something to you, then fight! even if everyone says its 'time to move on'!
That thing about love and coming home to someone is so true. After spending a summer with Aakash when I went back for fall semester to Florida. I was staying alone and it was the worst period ever for both of us. Later It took me 6 months to find a job in the same city as Aakash and everyone wondered why I wouldn't keep my options open. But I knew it was worth it. :)
About acceptance, I would say the difference in knowing when to accept and when to let go is more important than the actual struggle for what you deserve.
I have realized it after struggling a lot that if I had accepted something earlier, I wouldn't have wasted some of the most important days of my life.
Thanks for your comments, girls! All very true.. :)
About acceptance- oh yes, the implicit idea was that you think that it is worth fighting for but still, everyone else always wants you to accept the reality as the truth and move on..
Oh and by the way, Ketaki- I am really happy that you got a job near your husband but at the same time, I am so jealous that you have something so beautiful in your life! :) Really happy for you! Haha!
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